Bi-polar nature of suffering

The could there be a general trend in suffering as to one life where thare is some balance in suffering?

Naturaly a defence to suffering. Would a traumatized child lead to a less coompasionate nature and therefore a latter adulthood protected by its oun averous. And the reverse say a kind and loving childhood would leave by nature a child predesposed to kindness and compasion and leving it vunerable to social attack and poverty.
The mechanisme we use to impose balance is justice and punishment for the averous and uncompasionate.